In the wonderful world of dating there is a lot of protocols and doubts. A lot of the time these two avenues cross and leave us confused on what exactly we are suppose to be doing. What do you do when you are lost in the intersection? Turn to a friend? Your girl friends will coddle you and your guy friends will think you are crazy (which we are crazy because of dating). If you talk to the guy, then just write it off as another failed attempt. You fester and doubt until either you drive yourself or the man out or till it becomes a stable relationship which now you have already had a rocky start within yourself.
When is it that you take down your profile on the online dating site? When do you tell the other guys you are seeing someone? Has he done any of this? When in gods name is it OK to sleep with him? OK my answer for that is clearly when is the first time he sees me with one too many drinks. I will be the first to admit I will talk and date others until told otherwise but do not like when they are doing the same thing. I am truly lost on where on the time line I am. One minute I am as happy as a clam the next I am doubting everything. I am fine with talking about the future (and by that I mean 3 weeks down the road) but jokes about weddings? Talking about kids? Common there has to a general time line for this crap.
Everything starts on the same time line. First date and first weeks are touch and go. You probably are still considering yourself single and guess what so is he. Half the time you look at him with butterflies and gratitude the other half you look at him with doubt and questions. By the time doubt has left you have built this wonderful wall up for him to see. Like the Berlin wall by the time it comes down the damage has already been done. He already thinks you are a guarded, self preserving snob. When in reality you just spent the last month double check, memorizing, and worrying about EVERYTHING. Screw middle school, dating screw up the female brain more than any prepubescent travesties. Guys worry about how you look naked. What do you, genetically, bring to the table. Can you be trusted. The big T word. You start with all the trust in the world. It grows weaker or stronger in these weeks. Problem is you have just spent the last month building a wall so he thinks you are not only disengaged and uninterested but short of a full set. Looks like you are back to the drawing board and back to the repetitive cycle.
